Goals are important, not only to have, but also to examine. Our goals reveal to us our priorities. They show us what we are focused upon.
Many parents today, when asked about their children’s future, respond by saying something like this: “I just want them to make good grades and stay out of trouble.” Or, “I just want them to be happy.” Or, “I want them to be successful.” Although these goals are well-intended and have a level of importance, they fall very short of God’s goals for our children. It very possible for our kids to make straight A’s and stay out of trouble, and at the same time, live a life void of Kingdom activity.
As in all things, the question we need to ask ourselves is, “What does the Bible say?” The Scriptures, especially in Deuteronomy and Proverbs, give us the path that God desires our children to take. They are all summed up for us wonderfully in Ephesians:
[box] Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. – Ephesians 6:1-4[/box]
God’s will for our children is the following: that they would obey and honor their parents as they learn the ways of God and walk in them. If you align your goals with God’s goals, everything else (according to God’s will) falls into place. Think about it, if our children obey us, making good grades and staying out of trouble isn’t going to be a problem. If our children learn (hopefully from us) how to follow God, then living a Kingdom life is going to be present.
The Bible keeps things very simple. Don’t make it complicated. Teach your children that they are to, above all else, obey and honor you as they following Jesus Christ. That is, after all, God’s will for them, and He knows best.